“ARE YOU IN LOVE OR JUST IN LOVE WITH IT?”

Posted in inspirational, love, relationships with tags on December 17, 2010 by cortneydanielbonner

Does your heart feel like this?

Well,  I got the itch again and its time for another post.  So I was sitting in bed, checkin’ out the multitude of blogs on love.  OMG!  There are only four hundred fifty-two million, two hundred ninety-five thousand, nine hundred and two sites to visit. I had no idea we were so obsessed with subject.

So, I pondered a moment and  tried to picture that in my mind( I’m left brained  BTW) but I was interrupted  by this god-awful stench.  Something was burning!  At first, I was calm.  But when  the ominous clouds of  smoke appeared,  I started trippin’.  After about ………two seconds, I was frantic!  I looked on the floor.  NOTHING.  I looked  out the window.  NOTHING.  I looked in the trash can that to my surprise, was overflowing with trash!  STILL NOTHING!!!  I EVEN LOOKED IN MY BOWL!!!………….. Scratch that.  Let’s just say, I looked everywhere and found nothing.  Then I realized.  That horrid stench was my hair!  BURNING!  Did Micheal Jackson come back from the dead just to “f#$k” with me for laughing so damn  hard at his Pepsi fiasco?(sorry Mike)  No!  Then I looked up and saw the 1000 watt light bulb beaming brightly above my head.  Oh!  That’s it!  It was my GOOGLE alert gadget for IDEAS.  Thank God!  So I checked my Gmail.

Where was I?  Oh!  Obsessed with love…….  and  the question I propose is  “ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH HER/HIM OR ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH LOVE?’

Society has conditioned us to believe in this four-letter word so deeply that we try to fit our “in” SIGNIFICANT OTHERS into a “cookie cutter” ideal.  In addition to the 2.3 kids, the white picket fence, the two car garage etc… we neglect accepting love as it flows into our lives.  Many of  us have LOVE  on a post-it in our day planner, next to a plethora of other materialistic goals we have on our “LIST FOR A PERFECT LIFE.”  note to self: REVISE PERFECT LIFE LIST

Ladies and gentlemen,  let us bow our heads for a  moment of silence please.  The funeral services for the late Ms. Antiquated Views on love have now begun………………….,  Our hearts may have been in the right place but now it’s time to re-place our conditioned hearts with what is right, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.  We have so many preconceived notions of how love SHOULD be, that we neglect to experience how it really is.  This dis-ease retards our emotional growth.  It blinds us horribly and prevents us from seeing how love can truly effect and transform our lives.

Now that I got  your brain marinated properly, peep this:  If you open your eyes, you might find love.  But if  you open your heart, true love will  find you.  For the official site click here

I LOVE YOU, I HATE YOU! DON’T LEAVE ME OR I’LL DIE!

Posted in book previews, inspirational, love, relationships with tags , , , , , , , on December 15, 2010 by cortneydanielbonner

In my previous post, “We Should Be Committed”, I stated how much in love I was and that remains true.  My partner and I are stuck to one another like gum on the bottom of your shoe on a hot day in August.  We truly are two peas in a pod and I love her to death.  But sometimes I want to rip the phone cord out of the wall and wrap it tightly around her neck and strangle the: Sugar Honey Ice Tea out of her!

OMG!  Did I just say that out loud?  Well, figuretively speaking that is how I feel sometimes. You smell me?  Not really?  Well may be I’m out here on my own on this one.  Let me put it into perspective.  Remember in the first Die Hard movie starring Bruce Willis, when one of the “terrorists” that had been chasing John Mclane, enters the room and slams his A K rifle into this huge vase shattering it into infinitesimal pieces and  a woman says: “Wow that dude looks really pissed!” Then John’s wife, Holly  says: “John is still alive!”   Her terrified co-worker inquires: “How do you know for sure?”  Then Holly replies: “Because only John can drive someone that crazy!”  Well, let’s just say John Mclane and my precious Boo-Boo have something in common.

Unfortunately, some people may take me seriously when they read this post and report me but I’m keepin’ it real to an extent.  Ladies, if you don’t feel like bashing your boyfriend’s head in with a baseball bat sometimes, then you don’t love him!  Those are not my words.  That is a direct quote from my Boo-Boo’s book: “If You Don’t Feel Like Bashing Your Boyfriend’s Head in with a Baseball Bat Sometimes, Then You Don’t Love Him!” 

I’m just kidding folks.  But I truly believe that true love is galvanized by extreme pressure and not physical fights but a lot of emotional pounding from both you and your loved one.  Let’s be realistic, if you and your mate agree on every single issue without scrappin’ it out verbally, then you both need to be with someone else because you will never move forward.  Frederick Douglas said: “There is no progress without conflict.”  I believe that wholeheartedly.  So does my Boo-Boo.

Conclusively, I believe that you partner should compliment you not copy you.  Sometimes my ideas suck and make absolutely no sense at all and I need someone close to me to tell me the truth, not sometimes but every time.  My baby completes me.

On the other hand, when my girl goes shopping, not just for clothes, I mean shopping of any sort, she abandons all reason and logic.  It’s like I don’t even know who she is when we enter a store.  So, I often have to be that voice of reason she hears faintly in the distance and drag her back to reality.  At the end of the day, we make a good team, she and I.  We are going to fight to stay together even  if we have to fight ourselves.    For the official site click here

12 STEP PROGRAM FOR THE “CRASH TEST DUMMY” vol 1

Posted in inspirational, Uncategorized on November 20, 2010 by cortneydanielbonner
  1. This could be you!

    We admitted we are powerless over our addiction and that our lives have become unmanageable: This means you either got evicted, arrested, your spouse found out about your dirty little secret, got expelled, got fired, got a death threat from your drug dealer, got a DUI or woke up in your neighbor’s teenage daughter’s room “butt naked” with his shotgun in your mouth. Whatever the case: YOU ARE OUT OF CONTROL!

  2. We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity: That power being the police, the threat of divorce,a death threat from your drug dealer, your wealthy parents cutting you off, your “hotsexybeautiful” girlfriend cutting you off, rehab or an unseen force that moves through everyone’s life known as bad luck, fate, karma or your definition of God.
  3. We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God: At this point, no one believes you.  What they do believe is that everything you do say is a ploy for more money or some sort of charity you have taken advantage of in the past. “Your word and your balls got busted when you did Tony!”
  4. We made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves: After detoxing, for seven or more days, you realize what an “asshole” you made of yourself and how many people (the ones that love you) you have lied to, stole from, stood up, let down and basically S#!T on and F&%$^D over.
  5. We admitted to ourselves, to God and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs:After realizing how “cruddy and filthy” your soul has been soiled due to your selfishness,  you are so ashamed you must “empty you trash bin”.
  6. We are entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character: You can no longer stand to look at yourself in the mirror (or that shiny metal thing by the sink because the powers that be do not allow you to be near any glass or sharp objects due to your suicidal cries heard throughout the night from the nightmares you’ve been having).
  7. We humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings: Who else can give your soul a hysterectomy?
  8. We made a list of persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all: Skip this because the list is far too long and if you approach some of these people they may KILL YOU! What is more important and imperative is FORGIVING YOURSELF.
  9. We made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others: Review step number 8.
  10. We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong we promptly admitted it: Find the recipe for humble pie.  Bake it and eat it for at least three months.
  11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God,  praying only for God’s will for us and the power to carry that out:No one else  can help you but yourself.  But you now know that you cannot progress without the assistance of that unseen force that guides all of our lives.
  12. Having a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts and practice these principals throughout all of our affairs: Realize that you have taken more than your fair share of the world and you have to give something back.  But since you are flat broke, locked up, in rehab or unemployed, all you have to give is what you have learned.

IN HIS PRESENTS book preview Chapter 1

Posted in book previews, inspirational on November 19, 2010 by cortneydanielbonner

IN HIS PRESENTS

 

My mother always said: “If you’re gonna be a monkey, be a gorilla!”  So I for this manuscript, I raised the ante and became KING KONG!!!!  But even though I am in the business of helping people,  I truly believe, no one can teach you how to help yourself.  I can only  share my mistakes and hope you can find the commonalities in your life and change before its too late.  Waiting for someone else to fix our problems  is the major cause of most of the unresolved issues we have with ourselves.   Others can give you insight but, you got to figure it out for yourself.

Unfortunately, our society has set a standard of rules that we must follow.  If you fulfill the desires of the status quo you will be rewarded. Disobey the rules and you will be punished.  Most of us have played by the rules and ironically, punished ourselves. My goal is to tell you how I learned to change and suggest several possibilities for you to do the same. 

Starting today, I would like you to view the world differently and forget society’s rules.  This chapter is titled THE END because today you will put an end to the old you and your antiquated way of thinking.  Fret not!  For the end of winter is merely the beginning of spring.  The end is a reflection of the beginning.

Each of us, no matter what race, creed, color or age, has an unique way of thinking.    I am a true believer of the ‘coincidence of opposites’.  I am sure at some point in your life you felt as if you were not capable of achieving a goal because there were so many obstacles. I have come to the conclusion that your greatest dis-advantage is your greatest advantage.

 For instance, in the Japanese language, the same glyph or character used to define “crisis” also defines “opportunity”.  Have you heard the saying every gray cloud has a silver lining?

When I attended college at Howard University,  John Madden’s video football game was all the rage.  There was a lot of trash talking and bragging the same way it is today.  I never caught the  video game fever.  I was to busy socializing and entertaining the beautiful company of the plethora of females.  It was much more appealing than sitting in a room with a bunch of dudes in front of a television.  Besides the ratio were eight women for every man.  Who could blame me? 

Anyway, in my crew, my homeboy Lou (Luis Cardona) was undefeated and hated by all involved.  My other friends would say: “You Suck!” or “You got lucky.”  You know, what every loser says when they refuse to admit defeat.  Well, during the Christmas break, I stayed and celebrated with Lou and his mother.  Our other roommates traveled home for the holidays.  One evening after dinner, Lou revealed his secret.  He explained that his opponents would tease him because he would never pass the ball.  He only used running plays. They were absolutely right but still, no one could not defeat him. 

Lou told me that he refused to pass the ball because he would always throw an interception or get sacked.  He was frustrated because he could never get the hang of it.  So, his only alternative was to run the ball.  He got so good at it, no one could stop him.  Then he blew my mind.  He said” “Don’t let what people say you can’t do stop you from doing what you can!” 

It was a moment I will never forget.   It reshaped my mind, similar to stretching a rubber band, it never returned to its original form.  I think about that phrase at least once everyday of my life.  Thank you Mr. Luis Cardona.

AN OBAMA-NATION

Posted in business, poems, political, socio-economic, Uncategorized on November 14, 2010 by cortneydanielbonner

I AIN’T A DEMOCRAT

I AIN’T REPUBLICAN

INDEPENDENT?

HELL NAW

 I DON’T F#$K WITH THEM

I GOT MY OWN PARTY

I GOT MY OWN AGENDA

SIPPIN’ ON BACARDI

 CNN

WATCHIN’ WOLF BLITZER

 PAINT THE PICTURE

OF POLITICS ITS A TRIP

I HEAR THEM HOUSES TALKIN’

BUT THEY AIN’T DOIN’ SH%T

HOW ABSURD IT IS

TO BE BURDEN WITH

RADICALS LIBERALS CENTRISTS AND CONSERVATIVES

NOW IT’S JOHN BOEHNER

BECAUSE WE CANNED PELOSI

BUT ALL FOUR-HUNDRED AND THIRTY-FIVE

ARE A BUNCH OF PHONIES

AND THEY GOT CRONIES HOMEY

JUST TAKE A LOOK AROUND

CIVICS

GOT ME LIVID

CUZ THE SENATE

GOT ONE-HUNDRED CLOWNS

AND WHAT THE F$#K IS

SUPREME JUSTICE SH#T

NINE ASSES WITH GLASSES CAN’T SEE WHAT INJUSTICE IS?

ALL DUE RESPECT YOUR HONOR

BUT AFTER BUSH’S DRAMA

HOW THE HELL DID YOU EXPECT

PRESIDENT OBAMA

 TO CHANGE

A TRADITION

CLEARLY BUILT FOR PIMPIN’

 ‘CUZ

FOUR OR MORE RUN THE FLOOR

 FOR

THE SECURITIES EXCHANGE COMMISSION

I AIN’T TRIPPIN’

 I’M JUST GIVIN’ YA’LL THE LOW DOWN

 TEA BAGGERS GOT THE SWAGGER

 G O P  GOT THE FLOW NOW

BUT

I DUNNO

HOW

IT LOOK

NOW

N

‘YO’ TOWN

BUT

DOWN

‘HUR’

IT AINT ‘ENUFF

TO GO

‘ROWN’

‘RED? BLUE? GREEN?

MAN

WHO THE HELL CARES?

I JUST LOST MY JOB DOG

NOW I’M ON WELFARE

GOT EVICTED HIT THE SHELTER

DAMN!!!

IT WAS HELL THERE

MY LADY GOT BABY ON THE WAY

BUT WAIT!!!

 NO

HEALTHCARE

IN THE BUDGET FOR ME

THE GOVERNMENT IGNORES ME

CAN’T

 TIM GEITHNER OR PAUL BERNANKE

DO SOMETHING FOR ME?

A LITTLE STIMULUS HOW ABOUT A BAILOUT?

OH!

I SEE

IF  I WAS

A I G

 YOU WOULD HELP ME OUT?

 WALL STREET

MAIN STREET

WHAT TO DO STREET?

START CLEANIN’ MY GLOCK

GET SOME F$#KIN’ FOOD STREET

 NO BULL$H*TTIN

I’M IN NEED

 OF

ASSISTANCE

WHAT THE HELL I GOTTA DO?

BE AN EARTHQUAKE VICTIM ?

 SELAH!!!

 to be continued

IN HIS PRESENTS book preview Overview

Posted in Uncategorized on November 12, 2010 by cortneydanielbonner

IN HIS PRESENTS

 

 

The past is history. The future is a mystery. This moment is a gift.That is why it is called the PRESENT.  DEEPAK CHOPRA

 

In the world today, there are many people in various cultures who have one thing in common.  This commonality we all share is the struggle to find ourselves. It is very stressful to coexist in these uncertain times.  It is also very easy for people lose sight of who they are. All of us have personal dreams and desires.  Some of us have even experienced the great feeling that engulfs our souls when those dreams manifest.  But, OH! How great it would be to live the dream that God has for us. As His children we are taught to walk in the presence of God but seldom do we hear lessons to walk IN HIS PRESENTS.

As Christians we know our God to be a giving God.  He gave his only son to be the sacrificial lamb so that we may have everlasting life.  But God is also omnipotent and has blessed us far beyond our comprehension.  It is time for us to remember who, what, when and where we are.  We are His children and he has given us a myriad of gifts.  Some of these gifts lay dormant deep within us that only need to be awakened.

About a month ago, I was watching the Turner Classic Movie Channel and the Wizard of Oz was just beginning.  I had seen it at least fifty times before. I was tempted to turn the station but the spirit of the Lord advised me to watch it again.  Thirty minutes into the film, it dawned on me.  Dorothy could have gone home any time she chose.  She had the “ruby red slippers”.  Unfortunately, she did not realize the power they possessed.  She might have discovered their true worth if only she had questioned why the wizard and the wicked witch wanted them so badly.

I thank the Lord for those arduous days in college.  I was a Radio, Television and Film major and I recalled my studies in epics.  It has always been apparent in every epic poem or film, the hero/heroine has always possessed what was needed to succeed. The end is a reflection of the beginning and whether or not we are aware of the precious gifts God has embedded in us, they do exist.  We need only find them.

So, many may ask:” Where is my gift? “.  This is an excellent question. Assuming you have seen the film, you can remember Dorothy’s house being sucked into the eye of the tornado and catapulted to Oz.  It is there her house is thrust upon the witch and magically the “ruby red slippers” appeared on her feet.  Her great gift was the result of an unfortunate event.  This was such a sad beginning.

Therefore, it is suffice to say that we are all Dorothy.  In our own way, we are all lost trying to go home.  It is along the path (yellow brick road) we find the intelligence, the heart and courage to continue into the unknown.  But just like Dorothy, we must help others along the way and only then will we begin to remember that magic(the ruby red slippers) gift given to us in the beginning of our days.  It may be that unfortunate event(the house killing the witch) that scarred us that may also be the source of our gifts.

Personally, it has been my experience that the Lord uses that which is broken to fix what is broken.  Those of us who are lost may feel broken inside.  What we must do is turn to God and allow Him to shine within us so that we may see that our gifts are hidden in our scars.  God’s great gift of experience molds us into soldiers to do his work and live His dream.

 

So I pray that we all will remember to live, breathe and walk IN HIS PRESENTS.

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